Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; (Romans 5:3 NIV)
In conclusion of our 4 week Men of Honor series I decided to have my father close us out. Not only because he is my Father but because he is rare. I had the honor of watching him grow up and he amazes me more and more each day. He is the realist person you could ever meet. Im not gone say much because I could go on and on… So please read below as he discuss how he transformed from being just a husband to being what God called him to be and from Dopeman to being a Deacon.. Its a little long but I promise you won’t be disappointed!!!
This is a short story about a young boy and a young girl who became not only a man and woman but who became one. We met at the age of 15 in 1980 had two children TaWanna and Krystal Anderson, Krystal passed away at the age of 8 months. TaWanna is the one posting these blogs along with her mother. A lot of people go a lifetime trying to meet their favorite person;God gave me the pleasure of raising mines. Sheveze and Icourted for 10 years, got married, broke up, got back together and with God and only God we’re still together at the age of 50 years old and we are stronger than ever. (Applause expected). Ain’t God good? That is what it took and takes (please believe). Let me start out saying that you have to be equally yoked, keep in mind at the age of 15 all we knew about “yoke” was it came inside of an egg (smile). God knew what he was doing when we didn’t.
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers for what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness and communion has light and day.
We did not see that because I had not given myself to Christ yet. I was full of folly and shenanigans. Here was a young man born under the name of Michael L. Anderson that was raised by his grandparents from day one, mom and pops were on some other stuff at that time, but that is a whole nother story. I was brought up in a spiritual home but the “Church” thing wasn’t forced on me, remember grandparents let you get away with murder. My foundation was excellent, I was taught and also witnessed love; I was brought up to have morals and a conscious. The seed was definitely planted in me; I was raised by a real man. I never saw my grandparents argue; they would get in the car and take a ride when there was a disagreement and come back with it resolved. A lot of folks would marvel over that but what that taught me was how not to argue with a loved one. When you truly love someone regardless of what the situation is there is certain things you do not say. Because I never saw how it was resolved, I had no filter. When I would argue with Sheveze (the love of my life) I would say the first thing that came out of my big mouth. I didn’t know better, but I knew love. Regardless what choices you make in life, if your roots/seeds are planted right, whether you use the tool or not there will always be a passionate side to you.
Here is a young lady born under the name of Sheveze R Mitchell who was brought up in disarray, no solid foundation, living place to place not knowing if her home would be there or where her next meal was coming from. Not knowing when the doors on the house would be kicked in by the police because of her mother’s lifestyle of selling and using drugs. My parents wereon the same stuff but I was blessed to have an alternative and stay with my grandparents. I was spoiled and had everything and she didn’t, that is one of the reasons she appreciated things and I didn’t. Her mom’s would tell her she was going to the store and be gone for days. Most kids today would do the opposite of what Sheveze did if their parents were gone for days. Sheveze went to school every day regardless of what her situation was because that is where she found peace and love. Let me add that she is a heavy reader and this is another way for her to escape. (she is very intelligent). She read many books ignoring my foolishness.
One day at Flint Central High School “1980” after school I am doing my thing and she is doing hers, we met and exchanged a few words and went on about our way. A friend of mines was having a house party (he was Sheveze’s cousin) He asked me toDJ. I said cool, not knowing Sheveze was going to be there. She came in after the party started, I was spinning records real good, I saw her. I’m thinking like I’m about to do something with thisJ. When the party ended most of us stayed all night, we sat up talking about the people who were in our lives at the time that was it. I was thinking I might get a kiss or something next thing I knew we were an item. We talked every chance we got; we used to fall asleep on the phone sometimes (puppy love stuff) etc. One thing she shared with me that really stuck with me was that she did not want to have anything to do with somebody that was in the streets because of her upbringing, now that she had her life under control that was a “No-No” never again. I was like cool, knowing I was street as hell, not by nature but by choice. My crew was something else, but let me go back to the word choice. Every time I hear that word I think of my granddaughter Nyla. One day I picked her up from school and I asked her what was wrong because she had this down look on her face. She replied Paw Paw I made bad choices today and I got in trouble, I love her to death…I was good at making bad choices. Sheveze and I were a hit; she became pregnant during our senior year. I was like cool, we gone have this baby, get our own place and live happily ever after. I was still running the streets and making moves, Sheveze is loyal and faithful as hell. I’m selling drugs, using drugs, cheating on her and doing all kinds of ungodly things. I was talking reckless to her, I was just fooling. The only thing that was keeping me covered at that time was all the folks that were praying for me, Big Mama and the prayer warriors. I n ever said anything to her but I used to ask God why he would allow us to come together before him with this marriage knowing I’m not doing right. He knows everything I am out here doing. His answer was revealed later, but at the time I didn’t know how to receive someone that I had not accepted (Jesus). Life goes on and I am doing the same thingswondering why I’m not getting different results. I had a beautiful family at home and I’m in the streets chasing money and women. I found myself not trusting this loyal woman because I couldn’t trust myself. (I look back and realize this was some crazy stuff) I have done things to my wife that made me feel like I did not deserve that “Queen”. I even asked her why she put up with my stuff and her reply was “my flesh told me many nights to leave you or do something to you I would regret but my God said stand and let him work it out.” She said she was doing the Godly thing before me and I couldn’t even see it. She said the God she serves knew there was more to me than what I was doing so she would wait “patiently” on me. I was serving the devil, running in and out the house, throwing money around like I was doing something. I was once again missing the picture, what was needed was quality time, which was what was important. See I was doing “Daddy” stuff not “Father stuff”, how can you be a husband and parent when you are not present? I was totally out of control.
1 Tim 6:10
For the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. For which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness and pierced themselves through many sorrows.
Then it happened, I got caught selling drugs, oh yeah its time to pay the piper. That is when the light clicked on. A lot of time it takes a tragedy or hitting rock bottom before you will wake up. That was my bottom. I started going to church, it was funny how that happened. I was sitting in the parking lot of the store down the street from Ebenezer Ministries in my car and Bishop UrandiKnox pulled up, he was the pastor at that time. We started talking and I was sharing my story which he already knew, you know how the streets talk. I told him that I was ready to come to church but I didn’t want to do it at this bad time in my life because that is when everybody jumps into church. (Pride thing). Bishop’s words to me were “Mike, this is where you need to be. If you are sick, this is the place for healing and if you’re sincere whatever I or Ebenezer can do to support you and your family, it’s done. I told him thanks and the next Sunday my family and I were in church.
I repented, Psalms 32:5
I acknowledged my sin to you and I did not cover my inequity: I said I will confess my transgression to the Lord and you forgive the inequity of my sins.
I was OK after that and I asked my wife and my family for forgiveness. That was a beautiful day, the day my wife had been waiting for. Thank God that she didn’t give up on me; she knew I was a diamond in the rough. One thing we all know is diamonds have flaws but everybody wants one. A little food for thought, you may want to get a dish.
After all this time I finally get the picture, it wasn’t about me it was about God. Forever Always Must I Love You. (FAMILY). I have become the man God called me to be for him, my family and my community (Keep in mind I am a diamond and they have flaws). I have found my place in my marriage and my life. I am the head, if you think about it I was the head from day one,it just wasn’t on right. Everything I did I was the head; I came out of my mother’s wound head first now through Jesus Christ I’m the head of my life, wife and family. WOW, ain’t God good?? All it took was being obedient. I have never been a follower until I started following God’s word, excellent time to be a follower.
Whoever scorns instructions will pay for it but whoever respects a command is rewarded.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added to you.
Everything was coming together, keep in mind I still had to go away and do that time from when I was working for the devil. See the devil doesn’t take installment payments, when it is time to pay up, he wants it all in full. You pay with your life. I was cool with that because God had already let my family know that it was going to be OK. He worked miracles throughout the whole sentencing, which is a whole other story; let’s just say God is good. My wife was provided for, my daughter was provided for and I was provided for. I used that time to get closer to God and to take self-inventory and prioritize my life. When I came home after a few years God saw to it that life was good and things were in order. That is a hell of a word “Order”.
God was there through it all I just had to make the “Choice”. Who would of have known besides God and my wife (who was way ahead of me in the spiritual game) that I would go from “Disobedience” to “Dope Man” to “Deacon”. The only thing those words have in common is they all start with the letter D. The outcomes of the words are totally different, wow another “D”. Two of those words will get you death, one will get you eternal life in the kingdom. I choose the latter. Thank God!
2 Cor 5:17
Therefore if anyone is in Crist he is a new creation, the old passed away behold, the new has come.
John 1: 12-13
But to all who believed in him and accepted him he gave the right to become children of God. They are reborn not with a physical birth resulting from human passion or plan, but a birth that comes from God.
I woke up like this!
In our third week of the Men’s feature series we have Husband(4 years married), Author, publisher and founder of Brandon Publishing Kellen Brandon. A lot of times we focus on the women’s perspective not realizing the man has a HUGE roll to play in the success of marriage. His relationship with God is so crucial. That’s where his Faith,strength and direction come from. If he not hearing from God he may be leading you in the wrong direction. So please read as Kellen give us the man perspective on having faith in your marriage.
I have been married for almost four years now, and to believe that I have “marriage” or “faith” figured out would be nothing short of arrogance on my part. Hopefully we are all aware that I could never cover God’s entire introspect and instruction into one post. As we all should be seeking further faith, I recommend digging deep into His word for more answers and examples. I believe wholeheartedly that God has a sense of humor and often reminds me where I need growth in my life. Marriage and faith are commonly areas that need to be spurred forward. My wife and I married just four days after we were baptized into Christ. I honestly never saw myself being married to anything. So marrying a woman was something I had no desire to accomplish within my lifetime. I remember back when she seemingly forced me to go ring shopping with her. After only looking at one or two ring options, I disrespectfully dashed out of the store. Why? Because I was literally shaking with fear and empty of faith.
Yet the day I said “I do,” I could not have felt any more secure in my choice to become one with this woman. Why? Because I was faithful and certain in my relationship with God. Throughout my three months studying the Bible to be baptized, I prayed constantly about my desire to marry her. God calls us to seek counsel in order to execute plans of success (Proverbs 15:22). On September 1, 2011 (our wedding day) I couldn’t have been more confident or faithful in my counterpart.
I mention these two examples for good reason. One moment was filled with faith, developed from the practices of prayer, patience, humility, courage, and love. While the other was fueled by selfishness, waywardness, and lack of research (study). Having faith in our marriages means having foundation in God. Simple right? Well, not so much. Whenever my marriage is “struggling” it’s because one of us, or both of us, are lacking faith in God. We showcase this by the sin we allow into our lives. That sin forces us to be wayward, running in a circle, seeking the selfish desires of our own heart. These actions simultaneously cause us to avoid what marriage is all about–growth and love.
Men, God has called us to “lead” and our wives to “follow” (Ephesians 5:22-23). Yet He does not call them to follow ANYONE into hell. “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the son of man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mark 10:42-45). Our “leadership” is NOT dictatorship. It’s actually submissive. We submit totally to God and our wives are able to witness. Gods word calls us to serve, having faith in His word allows us to practice service.
A faithful marriage is sound with service and selflessness. So if you’re looking for a place to get started or some foundational functions that will grow the “faith” that is so vital in your marriage. Start serving God! Which will result in serving your spouse. Soon many other wonderful gifts and insight will follow.
In this opportunity to guest blog, I truthfully wanted to carve something poetic, positive, and prosperous for others to digest. But God is not concerned with theatrics, just faith! We should be concerned with same. Having supreme faith in God means constant study, fellowship with followers (of Christ) , and application of His word into our lives. Once we do this, we will notice many of life’s items becoming more peaceful and progressive. Including our marriages, and all other things under Him. Amen.
Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. (Psalm 51:10 NIV)
I’m listening to “Fill Me Up” By Casey J this morning and she says “Lord I want your heart, Give me your heart so I can love how you love, so I can serve who you called me to serve” Let that sink in for a second!!!! People think because you changed your life around and start living for Christ that it’s an easy walk. They think because you said yes Lord I will obey, that you magically turn into this person that love everybody and want to serve in every single ministry. Tuhh guess again.
Let’s be real who want to love someone that constantly dog them out. That constantly talk behind their back. Just recently I had someone lie on me tough!!! Like almost caused issues in my marriage. I wanted to fight because im like how dare you try to mess my stuff up!! Luckily my husband and I are tight so it didn’t affect us. But I had to pray and beg God to help me because I wanted to be confrontational and I cant.
You think ministers want to get out their bed and go see the sick in the middle of the night. You think the prayer warriors want to pray every day for your situation when they are probably going through something more crazy than you. Do you think the dance ministries want to get up and minister every month when they are empty and need ministering to themselves. Or think the street team want to go out and serve the poor when their home life may be jacked up. The answer is no not all the time!!
But they realize that it’s not about them. It’s not about their wants and what make them feel good because feelings constantly change. According to Jeremiah 7:23 God said “obey me, I will be your God and you will be my people. Walk in obedience to all I command you, that it may go well with you”. Main point being go well with you!!! Yeah I could have popped off and acted a fool on the person that lied on me but who would suffer from my ignorance. My kids? My kids, kids? Who knows!!
At this tea I attended this weekend my friend Kyona stated God wants your obedience over sacrifice. Which mean by obeying God your kids will be blessed, the death angel may skip your house or your family house. When they make cuts at your job, your office is skipped. Your spouse may receive a job he/she don’t qualify for. You will have income to provide for your family and food in the fridge when you open it.
SO yeah it may cause you to have to shut up when you feel like talking or go somewhere you really don’t feel like going, love someone that you know can’t stand you. But God called you for a reason so know you have the tools needed to do the job!! I’m not saying any of this to discourage you. But to show you that by following Christ you are not only able to bless your household but the people around you as well!! 💓
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. (Ephesians 5:23 NIV)
. Please read below as he give us Godly advice on leadership in Marriage!!
Submission is the seed to successful leadership! I imagine that statement has to come as a surprise and be potentially confusing. Some may become bewildered at the notion that submission can produce leadership, and for good reason. Think about it, if you are submitting then you cannot be leading; you are following, thus being a successful follower and not a leader, right? Well not exactly. Allow me to explain.
If I may begin by defining leadership as influence, and thus successful leadership as the positive and impactful utilization of influence in a manner that benefits all that are in subjection to it. In 1Corinthians 11:3 it says “But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” As a man my leadership is reliant upon the strength of my submission to Christ. It is through my relationship with Christ that I am provided vision, wisdom, and understanding, all of the foundational elements for successful leadership. I must first submit my will to God’s will, allowing His perfect plan for my life to be priority number one. When God knows that He can trust me to exercise the appropriate judgement, He can also trust me with deeper revelation and understanding.
The principle of sowing and reaping described in Galatians 6:7 will work in my favor. When we sow a seed of submission to God, then as leaders we have the potential to reap the harvest in abundance in the manner of successful leadership and submission from those who follow us.
As with all things, it is the owner’s responsibility to maintain and even improve what belongs to them. When I submit to God’s leadership, then God has a vested interest in the successful execution of my leadership. If I embrace this concept then I will learn that it is not my leadership that is tasked with being successful, but rather God’s leadership through me.
I will never be smart enough;talented enough, wise enough, or possess enough experience to circumvent the expertise of God. So when He speaks, I listen and apply what I have heard. This is the reason that submission is the seed to successful leadership. Sow in abundance!