The month of men Part 3

I’ve seen this guy from the beginning of being a father of one. To being married as a father of 3. Please read below as my husband Keion Morgan share with you his journey on the fatherhood roller coaster… 

As I sit and think to myself what is the true definition of the word FATHER? I take a look back on my life and realize that I honestly never knew exactly what it took to be a father. Due to the fact I (like a lot of African American males) grew up in a single parent home where my dad was absent well let’s just say he was tardy for most of my childhood lol… And my Mother had to shoulder the load of being both Mom and Dad trying to raise a boy into a man and instill in me things I would need to help me make it in this world. Now don’t get me wrong I have had some positive male role models during my 35 years of life and they have all had a significant impact on the man I am today from my GrandFather, StepFather, Uncle, GodFather, GodBrother, 3 Best Friends and most recently my Father in Law and my Pastor I have taken a lil bit from each of them and tried to apply it to my everyday life. 

Which leads me to my personal definition of what a FATHER and Fatherhood means to me! I became a dad when I was 20 years old and man was I scared I had no clue on what it took to raise a kid I was fresh off being a kid myself in most cases, yeah I was responsible and somewhat wise for my age at least I felt that way and that’s what was told and expressed to me by my family and friends but no way was I prepared to be called someone’s dad. But when my 1st born came into this world and I laid eyes on him and held him in my arms for the 1st time I felt something come over my spirit like yeah you got this! I think it was GOD just letting me know that I would be ok even if I was scared and nervous and didn’t know what or how to do it, it could and would be done. 

“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.”

‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭1:7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

You see even though I didn’t understand what I took to be a father I knew that I wanted to be the father to my son I never had. I held a grudge against my dad for so long because I felt he wasn’t there for me like I felt he should be. He wasn’t that picture perfect father who took me under his wing and taught me how to play sports, how to dress for success, how to speak to individuals in a room full of strangers, how to treat a woman with respect and class, how to be a leader and not a follower and to pick myself up and dust off when I fall in the game of life, in my eyes he just wasn’t helping me or preparing me to be a MAN! But unknowingly to me at the time he did, because everything he wasn’t there to give me made me want it that much more so in that since he did help me more than he would have ever known because it forced me to search for that in which I was missing and in desperate need of and I found it and got it from several individuals, great men whom I am proud to call family and friends to this day.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:28‬ ‭NIV‬‬

It took me until I became an Adult a Husband and a Father of now 3 beautiful children to realize that it wasn’t my dad’s fault that he wasn’t able to give me what I needed, you see my dad lost his father to gun violence when he was young boy which left him without the father figure he so desperately needed to help him become the man he needed to be that would be able to pour into the seed he had created. 

He too was raised in a single parent home and had to overcome the same obstacles as I did growing up without his dad around but had failed to do so. Which I feel ultimately led to him not being able to become the father I needed growing up. At this time in my life I have no hard feelings towards my dad I get it I understand it wasn’t completely his fault and I Love him for what he was able to give to me and appreciate him for his part in the creation of my life. And now that I am a Father I can tell you it is no easy task but it is well worth it to be able to watch someone you help create grow and blossom into beautiful soul and do wonderful things that you could only imagine. Trust me you are gonna run into some rough spots I know. 

I encourage you to find and begin to build a relationship with GOD in order to have a successful relationship with your child. I have a 15 year old son who has tested my skills as a father over the last few years. During the test I have learned more about myself and what it takes to not only be called a father but what it takes to be a father. I try to learn from the mistakes I made with him and do a better job at fathering my daughters and boy is there a difference between the two. Girls definitely bring out another part of you lol… 

But that’s the beauty of it all you there is no such thing as being a perfect father you just have to be your child’s father! So I will end this by telling any man young or old that has fathered a child be there for that child no matter what they didn’t ask to come into this crazy world we’re living in but now that they are here they are gonna need us to be the men we were put here to be.

 There are many qualities of a Father. Strong, Selfless, Hard Working, Loving, Understanding, Helpful, Encouraging, Protector, Provider and Disciplinary. So I encourage you as well as myself to have many of these qualities if not all and we my brothers are the definition of a FATHER! May GOD bless you and yours and wish all of you a Happy Father’s Day ✌🏿️&❤️

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The Month of Men part 2

Please read below as Omar Guy send some encouragement to the real men. The men that no matter the circumstances stayed in their child’s life and did whatever  to make things happen. I’ve witnessed him alongside his wife raising 5 children. Never giving up and always striving to be better for his family. So keep on reading. You won’t be disappointed.. 

Today is a day to appreciate the fathers of the world. To the men whose been there from the beginning till the end..From the delivery to the graduation stage. Real fathers, real men. We should applaud them all. Being a father is a real tribute! To see a younger version of u Grow into a “GREATER”  version of you is such a blessing that any one man can be thankful for. Not everyday is going to easy as a father, but its your duty.  Through it all be the best father figure u can be. Remember being a father doesn’t come natural we gotta make mistakes. So be honest to your children and walk with them through it all. Fatherhood is no race. We are constantly learning all the way through.
As a man u grow and experience life…as a father u watch your seed grow and experience life. One of the greatest achievements in life is to watch your seed grow and bloom into this beautiful image of a human being. Our sons watch and mimic us. Our daughters look for that image in her future spouse. So a father should be way more than a donor. He is the guidance that mold a young man or young womans future. 

Being a father is that stern “NO” sometimes when u have to discipline. Being a father means even being the bad guy cause we know that’s What real father’s are…lol… But all in all we do it to make sure things go as they should. So not to over shine the mother’s but a father is a real essential key in the life of a child growth and development. I learned alot from my first born. He taught me so much more than for me to say I got a kid or I got my JR…. It was my right and wrongs that I knew I had to fix for him and the children I would have in the future. So with that I wanna wish all the real FATHER’S a Happy Father’s day!

Mr.Guy

The Month of Men..

Everything is usually catered to the women. But this month Whenupray is dedicating June to the men. Please read below as David Goolsby discuss fatherhood… 

Have you ever snuck into an event, like a wedding reception, without an invitation? Or how about sneaking into a movie theater without paying? What about sneaking into an “R” rated movie when you were 15 years old? Many of us can testify of sneaking into events without the proper credentials or having followed the proper protocol.

 It seems like no matter where you go, you will run into a brother who will be looking for a ‘hookup’. The rules could have been posted, the tickets have been on sale for weeks, but somebody will be trying to cut in line without a ticket, looking for a ‘hookup’. Just why not follow the protocol and get your ticket in advance?

 God has a protocol for His Kingdom:

The protocol in this parable was 1) To be invited, and 2) Receive and wear the robe (wedding clothes)

Matthew 22:1-13 (NIV) Jesus spoke to them again in parables, saying: Matt. 2 “The kingdom of heaven is like a king who prepared a wedding banquet for his son. 3 He sent his servants to those who had been invited to the banquet to tell them to come, but they refused to come.

11 “But when the king came in to see the guests, he noticed a man there who was not wearing wedding clothes. 12 ‘Friend,’ he asked, ‘how did you get in here without wedding clothes?’ The man was speechless. 13 “Then the king told the attendants, ‘Tie him hand and foot, and throw him outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’

 How did the man get in there without following the protocol of accepting and putting on the wedding garment? In those days, kings were accustomed to give gifts of changes of clothing to their friends and favorites. At a wedding feast, the guests would normally be given fine linen garments to wear, usually white. To refuse to receive the gift was a major ‘dis’. You must be crazy to dis a king? You would most likely be killed, as in the above scripture.

 So how does this apply to fatherhood? Many males have snuck into fatherhood without following the proper protocol. I’m not ignoring that some of you males buy all your children’s clothes, and provide adequate amounts of care, financial support, love, etc. I commend you for that. But what I’m talking about is entering into fatherhood without following the proper protocol.

 The proper protocol for fatherhood is to be married

Marriage signifies the commitment from which love can grow. It says, “I Love You.” It says, “I’m giving you more than a baby, I’m giving you the most important part about me and that is my name.” Proverbs 22:1 says a good name is more desirable than great riches.  

 Marriage is more than a drive by, “Hey baby, you’re fine!” It’s more than an, “I love you.” Marriage is a covenant. That’s the highest form of commitment.  

 Marriage says to your child, “I love your mother.” Marriage says to a mother-in-law, and father-in-law that I value and appreciate your daughter.

 Marriage says that this relationship is bigger than me. It’s the foundation of building a legacy based on covenant.  

 Marriage is the protocol by which fatherhood is established. Folks used to say that a particular child was illegitimate. But taking the protocol stance, I say that there are no illegitimate children, just illegitimate daddies that haven’t earned the right to be called, “Father”.

 If that’s you then you can pray this prayer with me and ask The Lord’s forgiveness.

Father, in The Name of Jesus, I repent for my sin of trying to do it my way instead of doing it Your Way. Your Way of Fatherhood is the best way. Your Ways are higher than my ways. Your thoughts are higher than my thoughts. Your provision for me as my Father is better than my provision for my children.

I thank You for providing Your Son, Jesus Christ who died for my sins and washed them away by His Own Blood. I thank You for raising Him from the dead, and I thank You for forgiving me and receiving me back into Your Kingdom.

More than anything I want my child(ren) to know Your Son, Jesus as their Lord and Savior. Help me to lead, in Word, Spirit, and by example in Jesus’ Name. Amen.