Get yourself together first 

You didn’t cheat on me, you cheated yourself. You didn’t believe in yourself so you searched for validation through sexual gratification.
 You didn’t devalue me, you devalued my love for you. Because you don’t love yourself, you couldn’t believe I loved you either. 
You didn’t create me, so no matter how long we are together and no matter how many experiences we share, you cannot define me.
If you make a bad decision, learn from it. Don’t take bad behavior and wear it like a badge of honor. There is no honor in dishonesty, there is no honor in disloyalty, there is no honor in brokenness.
 Until you learn to love yourself, Until you understand who you are, you should give love a break, self love is the most important thing you can give yourself. Hurt people, hurt people. Allow time for healing before you invite anyone else into your life. 
Apologizing to someone after you shatter their life is like asking water to flow backwards or asking the moon to rise at noon. Of course people forgive because, it’s a must if you want to be whole again but you can’t unsay the mean thing, you can’t uncheat nor can you unbeat. 
“Try to do what is good for others, not just what is good for yourselves.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭10:24‬ ‭ERV‬‬


I’ve been blessed

Our women’s ministry is currently involved in a 7 week secret sister fellowship. When we started I was a little apprehensive about it, wondering if people would really participate and how it would look. 

It’s called Sister, I see you. The intent is to pray someone else, pour into someone you would not normally pray for. Reach out to a sister you may not know and encourage them. The guidelines are pretty doable, it’s like pray for them this week, pray for their family, but a small token gift etc. weellllll 

These women have blessed me. I have seen an amazing outpouring of love and kindness shown by women old and young. Some of the women participating are the Mothers of the church, some are new members and some didn’t want to do it but stepped out on faith. I’ve had the pleasure of passing gifts back and forth to maintain anonymity and seeing the faces of these women when they are acknowledged is just a blessing. I was reminded of this scripture. 

“Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭13:2‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
Sister, I see you and I’m impressed.