Marriage part 1

“Also, teach the older women to live the way those who serve the Lord should live. They should not go around saying bad things about others or be in the habit of drinking too much. They should teach what is good. By doing this they will teach the younger women to love their husbands and children. They will teach them to be wise and pure, to take care of their homes, to be kind, and to be willing to serve their husbands. Then no one will be able to criticize the teaching God gave us.

You should be an example for them in every way by the good things you do. When you teach, be honest and serious.”

‭‭Titus‬ ‭2:3-5, 7‬ ‭ERV‬‬,7.erv

Ahhhh, the struggle is real. I have read this and highlighted it and reread it, but live it? I am probably considered an elder by some, especially those new to marriage but I don’t feel like it. I’ve been with my husband 37 years and I by no means an expert on marriage or relationships but I am aware of them.

My heart has been grabbed lately by marriage woes.. my inbox, my text messages, social media and just life itself. I’ve been touched enough to reach out.

I only have one thing to say today, Trust God! Trust the God who created heaven and earth, the God who loved you enough to send his son so you could be free. Trust him with your heart, your soul and your marriage.

“And I pray that you and all God’s holy people will have the power to understand the greatness of Christ’s love—how wide, how long, how high, and how deep that love is. Christ’s love is greater than anyone can ever know, but I pray that you will be able to know that love. Then you can be filled with everything God has for you. With God’s power working in us, he can do much, much more than anything we can ask or think of.”

‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭3:18-20‬ ‭ERV‬‬


A personal story

Good morning my loves. As open as I can be it’s always a struggle to share something personal and ongoing. Recently I had a mammogram and they called me back for some extra pictures. Well, that has happened before so I did not panic. My husband offered to go with me, I said this is nothing, they will take some pics and let me know later. Well I was wrong wrong wrong. After the pictures were taken the nurse told me to have a seat because the doctor needed to review the pics and if he could rule out Cancer I would be free to go. Well wait a minute, what are you talking about? That’s what I was thinking but my voice was quiet. A little piece of my soul was hanging on whispering “peace be still “ but my spirit man was screaming in my chest WHAT IS SHE TALKING ABOUT? I just stared at her and said, ok.

She left with pictures of my left breast tucked under her arm. I sat there and the first thought I had was “I don’t have time for this”. I didn’t know if I should scream and cry or just sit quietly. My spirit child kept whispering “peace be still”, “All is Well”, trust the process. I was numb and it was taking forever. But God always has a ram in the bush. A lady from my church who I’ve always considered a friend was there getting an exam and when she finished I asked her to sit with me. She didn’t ask any questions she just sat there and talked to me. God sent her at that exact time, just for me.

The nurse came back to the room and asked me to follow her. We went into a room with a huge table with a hole in the middle, X-ray machines and other items I had never seen. She told me the doctor was unable to rule out cancer and I needed a biopsy of my left breast. I had no words! I sat there numbly as she explained the procedure and what was required of me. I was panicking inside and it seemed as if my voice was screaming in my throat and burning it inside but nothing could come out. After she scheduled my appointment I headed to the lobby and told my friend I had to have a biopsy. She offered to be there with me every step of the way, I was numb. I got dressed and headed to my car.

I have to pause here and tell you that on the way to my appointment I had my smooth r&b playlist bumping in the car from my phone. Normally when I get back in the car it picks up where it left off right.. naaaah God had something else planned. I jumped in the car and immediately the song “Bigger” began to play.. I fell apart right there in the parking lot at how great my God is! He wanted me to know he was bigger than what I was going through. All I could think was “How did this song begin to play?” But then I though about God and him saying nothing is impossible! Yeah he kept me as I dealt with my fears.

Well to shorten the story, everything came back negative and I do not have Breast Cancer🙌🏽 The experience reminded me how quickly your life can change. It reminded me to be careful of my relationships and to cherish the people who cherish me and to love on purpose. To be purposeful about my actions and my reactions. I did not give any of my friends and loved ones the opportunity to support me through this because I did not know if I should burden them with this. But know I realize I could have used the emotional support.

A prayer for us

I have prayed to God in heaven and asked in Jesus name that today be blessed, that all of us have an ear to hear and a heart of compassion for one another. I’ve prayed that we remain calm and respectful of each other. I’ve asked the Holy Spirit to Invade the space and bring us peace. I’ve asked God to help us solve our problems so we can all be successful and have a feeling of fulfillment. I’ve asked God to remove any preconceived ideas about any person and to give us a heart for peace. I’ve asked God to forgive us, restore us and renew a right spirit in us. “The Lord enjoys people who worship him and trust in his faithful love.”

“The name of the Lord is like a strong tower. Those who do what is right can run to him for protection.” So I’m asking that his loving protection be granted to you and to me.

‭I’ve asked all of this in the name of Jesus, so according to my faith, it is done!