Pick your head up

You are not a victim, stop acting like it. So many times we act as though we are held hostage by our careers or our situations when the truth is we have choices.

If every morning you dread getting out of bed to go to work, stop 🛑, you need to re-evaluate your job. That job is not your supplier, God is.

“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:19‬ ‭KJV‬‬


If every morning you are sad and upset, you need to rethink what you are thinking. Your attitude determines your outlook. You are responsible for how you feel and no one else.

“Brothers and sisters, continue to think about what is good and worthy of praise. Think about what is true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:8‬ ‭ERV‬‬


In all things trust God, stop allowing the enemy to make you feel powerless, you serve a God who can do anything, he created the heaven and the earth, he saved 3 boys in fiery furnace and made a few loaves of bread and a basket of fish feed the masses. You don’t serve some lower case God, pick your chin up.

“We have freedom now, because Christ made us free. So stand strong in that freedom. Don’t go back into slavery again.”

‭‭Galatians‬ ‭5:1‬ ‭ERV‬‬


“And that is what will happen if you continue to believe in the Good News you heard. You must remain strong and sure in your faith. You must not let anything cause you to give up the hope that became yours when you heard the Good News. That same Good News has been told to everyone on earth, and that’s the work that I, Paul, was given to do.”

‭‭Colossians‬ ‭1:23‬ ‭ERV‬‬




“But thank God! He gives us victory over sin and death through our Lord Jesus Christ.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭15:57‬ ‭NLT‬‬


“So we always have confidence. We know that while we live in this body, we are away from the

‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭5:6‬ ‭ERV‬‬


Death, the great equalizer. One thing I know for sure is that death is inevitable. Death is as much a part of living as breathing but it’s so hard for us to manage.

I think of how many of us have lived our lives so that when we leave this earth we have another home in glory but as soon as we stop breathing our families erupt in chaos. We hear the old southern hymnal “ Don’t cry for me” and we all start bawling, well I do. We hear “His eye is on the sparrow” and there we go again but we forget the circle of life. If our loved one died in Christ it should be a home-going celebration. I mean think about it, many of them gave their life to Christ, and you know that meant they had to chang some things in their life. We may not understand all the changes that each person had to go through but if you are in Christ you know it costs something and death is the reward for those who died in Christ.

I struggle with death, especially children and people who I deemed as “good people”. I know it’s crazy that I would think like that but I’m human. When I get caught up in my emotions about death I look to God because I can’t do it alone.

The Bible tells us to use joy,

“We must never stop looking to Jesus. He is the leader of our faith, and he is the one who makes our faith complete. He suffered death on a cross. But he accepted the shame of the cross as if it were nothing because of the joy he could see waiting for him. And now he is sitting at the right side of God’s throne.”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12:2‬ ‭ERV‬‬


To use our faith,

“Faith helps us understand that God created the whole world by his command. This means that the things we see were made by something that cannot be seen.”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭11:3‬ ‭ERV‬‬


To be at peace

“And because you belong to Christ Jesus, God’s peace will stand guard over all your thoughts and feelings. His peace can do this far better than our human minds.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:7‬ ‭ERV‬‬


And to trust him

“Trust the Lord completely, and don’t depend on your own knowledge.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3:5‬ ‭ERV‬‬


“Yes, I am sure that nothing can separate us from God’s love—not death, life, angels, or ruling spirits. I am sure that nothing now, nothing in the future, no powers, nothing above us or nothing below us—nothing in the whole created world—will ever be able to separate us from the love God has shown us in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:38-39‬ ‭ERV‬‬


Still talking about marriage

Married and wondering what is going on? Yeah I’ve been there. During different times in my life I have prayed and begged God to have a closer relationship with Michael (my husband). I can remember days when my husband did not come home, running around in the streets getting high, gambling and sleeping with this chick or another. I say this to encourage you, because today he provided the scripture and a prayer to open church. Who knew right? “We know that in everything God works for the good of those who love him. These are the people God chose, because that was his plan.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:28‬ ‭ERV‬‬


That’s not the story though, I was thinking about how often we, as Christian Women, want our man to have a closer relationship with God. We pray and fast, we moan and groan, beg and plead without knowing what that will mean for us. I bet you wonder where am I going with this?

We often want what the world tells us is the perfect alignment of a relationship. We want the man to move to the head of the family, make the decision, be the man and all that Jazz. We want a husband who is like our father or grandfather but also like our brother and cousin (cool and hip). We expect him to morph into something he is not just because society has said so. You know who your husband is, you know what man you married, so how can him accepting Christ change who he is foundationally? If you’ve always made the decisions for the family, you still will after he accepts Christ. If you lead the family before, you may have to continue to do so after he meets Jesus formally. Getting saved and accepting Christ is not a magic potion, it does not give a man super powers.

I’m saying this, know the man you are married to and learn to accept him as is, the way you want to be accepted. Trust that God knows what he is doing, just like he is working on you, he is working on your husband, but that does not mean he will automatically make him someone different. Your marriage may not look like everybody else’s but does it work for you? Pick your battles, fight the fights you can win. Trust God with your husband, know that he knows what you need and he will provide you with the skills you need to do any job he has set before you. I ask that you remember your husband and why you agreed to marry him.. those special things are still special and I know what you hear about dominion and stuff but does it look the same for every family? I say it does not. I say there is a lid for every bottom and someone has to lead and someone has to follow. If your husband all of a sudden becomes the leader, can you follow?

Are you prepared for what you are praying for? You have been the decision maker and now you will be required to bend to the will of someone else. This could create a whole new set of problems unless you are truly ready. Just think what that could look like? Be prepared for what you are praying for or you will be unhappy because you will be caught up in your feelings because now he is telling you no, not right now or asking for explanations that you believe are unnecessary. When he is leading you have to trust he is hearing from God and that the decisions he are making is for the good of your family. You have to take a back seat when your used to driving sista, it’s not easy and if you are not prayed up the devil enters in. He starts reminding you that you did this job without his help all these years, who does he think he is telling you no, you work every day. Etc etc etc, the devil uses your dissatisfaction to wreck havoc on your marriage. I’m not saying the man should not move to the head of the relationship but I am saying, only if it’s God will. “Your help made me so happy. Give me that joy again. Make my spirit strong and ready to obey you.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭51:12‬ ‭ERV‬‬


It’s not easy being a wife because there are no real rules but I say let your heart rule❤️

Love and Marriage, pt 4

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, and I made plans like a child. When I became a man, I stopped those childish ways. It is the same with us. Now we see God as if we are looking at a reflection in a mirror. But then, in the future, we will see him right before our eyes. Now I know only a part, but at that time I will know fully, as God has known me.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:11-12‬ ‭ERV‬‬


We are grown ups now, no more playing around in any of our relationships and especially our marriages. We are all on a journey to find our place in the kingdom, our place in society and our place in our homes. We have to look to God to help us define ourselves in life. We have to look to God to define who we are in our marriage and our homes. We have to start being Faith, we have to start being Grace, we have to start being Love!

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily. Love does not remember wrongs done against it. Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth. Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:4-7‬ ‭ERV‬‬


“My purpose in telling you to do this is to promote love—the kind of love shown by those whose thoughts are pure, who do what they know is right, and whose faith in God is real.”

‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭1:5‬ ‭ERV‬‬


“Together with these things, the most important part of your new life is to love each other. Love is what holds everything together in perfect unity.”

‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:14‬ ‭ERV‬‬


Marriage part 3




1. 1.

the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman).

Partners in a personal relationship hmm, that’s an interesting concept.

“So they are no longer two, but one. God has joined them together, so no one should separate them.””

2. ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭19:6‬ ‭ERV‬‬


So the two partners in a personal relationship become one?

I say yes they do. Not one body but thinking with one mind. Thinking toward the same goals for the family. Using shared ideas to solve everyday life situations. Considering the other person when you make decisions, that’s how you become one. It’s not a magic wand that makes it happen, it’s working together. Remember to love each other even when the situation appears bigger than you. It’s trusting God together, where two or more are gathered in his name, he is in the mix. Just think how powerful a married couple is, God is already a part of the marriage and then you add prayer, nothing can come against your family and survive if you incorporate prayer.

““Jeremiah, I am the Lord. I am the God of every person on the earth. You know that nothing is impossible for me.””

3. ‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭32:27‬ ‭ERV‬‬


So, Trust God with your marriage, go to him in prayer and watch things turn around.

Marriage part 2

Honesty, purity and sacrifice

As you struggle in your marriage I challenge you to remain sexual pure. I don’t mean virginal but I mean you should only give your body to your husband. I know you’re mad or your needs aren’t being met or maybe you are separated physically and emotionally. Whatever the reason you choose it’s an excuse to do what you want. Keep yourself pure not because Jesus won’t forgive your but because one day you will have to forgive yourself. I know you think you will be able to shrug this off later because you have your reasons. But let me keep it real for you, if you love yourself and you love God your conscious will not let this rest and you have just given the enemy a way to torment you. He will taunt you and remind you how you failed God and he will be relentless. Let me help you save yourself the trouble.

It’s not easy but I challenge you to take this time to heal yourself, heal the reasons why you think this is acceptable knowing you are married or in a committed relationship. Ask God to show you YOU! I beg of you to let God heal you, it will be rough, you will have to remember things so deep and dark that you think you will break but my sister, I tell you to trust God with it. He got you.. let your Faith go to work and do he heavy lifting.

“He said to her, “Dear woman, you are made well because you believed. Go in peace. You will not suffer anymore.””

‭‭Mark‬ ‭5:34‬ ‭ERV‬‬


My sister I know that marriage is hard, I know that people let you down and break your heart, I know that and God does too, that is why he tells you that he will never leave you, he knows what’s coming. But remember, all things work to the good for those who love God and who are called according to his purpose. Yes that’s you, if you were born, you have a purpose. Even this thing you are dealing with know has a purpose. Ask God to help you understand, but be ready to work. I can promise you he will help but I can’t promise what it will look like. Just know that in the end, you will be better.

“Now, about sex and marriage: Drink only the water that comes from your own well,”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:15‬ ‭ERV‬‬


Marriage part 1

“Also, teach the older women to live the way those who serve the Lord should live. They should not go around saying bad things about others or be in the habit of drinking too much. They should teach what is good. By doing this they will teach the younger women to love their husbands and children. They will teach them to be wise and pure, to take care of their homes, to be kind, and to be willing to serve their husbands. Then no one will be able to criticize the teaching God gave us.

You should be an example for them in every way by the good things you do. When you teach, be honest and serious.”

‭‭Titus‬ ‭2:3-5, 7‬ ‭ERV‬‬


Ahhhh, the struggle is real. I have read this and highlighted it and reread it, but live it? I am probably considered an elder by some, especially those new to marriage but I don’t feel like it. I’ve been with my husband 37 years and I by no means an expert on marriage or relationships but I am aware of them.

My heart has been grabbed lately by marriage woes.. my inbox, my text messages, social media and just life itself. I’ve been touched enough to reach out.

I only have one thing to say today, Trust God! Trust the God who created heaven and earth, the God who loved you enough to send his son so you could be free. Trust him with your heart, your soul and your marriage.

“And I pray that you and all God’s holy people will have the power to understand the greatness of Christ’s love—how wide, how long, how high, and how deep that love is. Christ’s love is greater than anyone can ever know, but I pray that you will be able to know that love. Then you can be filled with everything God has for you. With God’s power working in us, he can do much, much more than anything we can ask or think of.”

‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭3:18-20‬ ‭ERV‬‬