Wives, be willing to serve your husbands. This is the right thing to do in following the Lord. (Colossians 3:18 ERV)
If you talk to me for any length of time you will hear me talk about my husband. If you hear me talk about him a lot you will probably start to think that I believe he is perfect. I’m not kidding, he is a great husband. But don’t be mislead, that does not mean he is without flaws. Often when I tell people we have been together for 30+ years people think we stayed together because it’s been nearly perfect. Oh no, don’t believe that, it’s been far from perfect, in fact if you’ve been around us a long time you might question our sanity. lol trust me, I love him and he completes me.
What I’ve learned:
Wives, be willing to serve your husbands the same as the Lord. A husband is the head of his wife, just as Christ is the head of the church. Christ is the Savior of the church, which is his body. (Ephesians 5:22, 23 ERV)
It was a painful lesson, (head down, humbled). I used to complain about what was wrong with him (only because I was perfect) and focus on what he wasn’t doing. That was just plain dumb but hey, I did not know any better. There were very few married couples in my family and the ones that were married probably shouldn’t have been. IJS so I did not have any examples to guide me, there was no YouTube to help me. I spent so much time complaining about what was wrong that I missed what was right. He made some bad choices when we were younger and I did too. God reminded me of something important, my husband loves me. Oh yes he does and he will do anything to make sure I’m ok, my daughter and I helped define him and he cherishes our love.
When I found this scripture I knew I had found a definition of my husband.
And husbands should love their wives like that. They should love their wives as they love their own bodies. The man who loves his wife loves himself, because no one ever hates his own body, but feeds and takes care of it. And that is what Christ does for the church (Ephesians 5:28, 29 ERV)
I challenge each of you, go back and remember why you said Yes to your husband. Catalog all the things that you love about them and all the things that they do to make you better. Don’t write a list of what they do wrong, who cares, if you trust God (and I know you do) he is working on that man just like he is working on you. You can’t rush God to make him better, he is already great and God will just smooth the edges and heal the wounds so his greatness can shine brighter. Be the light that God created you to be so he can find his way home if he gets lost. These streets are rough, life can wear on you with bills, kids, aging parents and so much more.
But each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself. And a wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33 ERV)
Written by natalie cole
Hey, did you happen to see my sweet baby?
He was walkin on down the road
Tell him for me that if you see him tonight
Everything is alright
’cause I know how he gets when he’s low
Oh, he’s a beautiful man
Kinda hard to understand but
He’s the only good man that I know
Won’t you tell him for me
I’m keepin a light shinin in the window
Just in case he decides to come home!