The bible says:
How hard it is to find the perfect wife. She is worth far more than jewels. Her husband depends on her. He will never be poor. She does good for her husband all her life. She never causes him trouble. She is always gathering wool and flax and enjoys making things with her hands. She is like a ship from a faraway place. She brings home food from everywhere. She wakes up early in the morning, cooks food for her family, and gives the servants their share. She looks at land and buys it. She uses the money she has earned and plants a vineyard. She works very hard. She is strong and able to do all her work. She works late into the night to make sure her business earns a profit. She makes her own thread and weaves her own cloth. She always gives to the poor and helps those who need it. She does not worry about her family when it snows. She has given them all good, warm clothes. (Proverbs 31:10-21 ERV)
As I read all this I thought about what we expect versus what God’s word shows us. Many of us did not have real examples of being a Godly wife. Let’s face it many of our mothers were not married or they had men that were not truly leading and guiding the family in a spirit filled home. I don’t know about your mom but mines was hard in the yard, she made it happen for us and men were used and discarded and very rarely was any respect shown or given. My aunts were unmarried my grandparents had crazy relationships. How was I going to learn to be a wife amiss all this? I had to learn the hard way, trial and error. But what changed it all for me was getting to know God. Having a relationship with The Lord changed my relationship with my husband. I’ve learned when to press my point and when to let God handle it. I’ve watched my husband grow in The Lord because he saw me trusting and standing on the word. God can change anyone and he will honor his commitment to your marriage. You formed a covenant with him and he is faithful even when you aren’t. To be the best wife you can be means trusting his word on your marriage and trusting the process. It won’t be changed over night, no you won’t always know what to do and say and no your husband won’t miraculously be changed because you read this but what do you have to lose?