My loves, one of the first promises in the Bible is in relationship to our parents. I find it comforting to repeat that promise with Mother’s Day this week and Father’s Day coming soon.
It’s a commandment with a promise!
““You must honor and respect your father and your mother. Do this so that you will have a full life in the land that the Lord your God gives you.”
Exodus 20:12 ERV
Who doesn’t want to have full life? Who doesn’t want God to be pleased with them?
I know that some of our parents have failed us in our eyes. Some of our parents have been abusive both physically and mentally Some of our parents gave us up to our grand parents, aunts, uncles and cousins and even for adoption and those actions created terrible issues between us. In my case I was very disrespectful to my mom, I felt that her choices ruined my life. My mom was addicted to drugs and alcohol and because of that she did not make good choices. I was hurt deeply by her actions and I wanted the world to feel my pain. I was mean, disrespectful and hateful. It is true that hurt people, hurt people. I lashed out at family, friends and I made enemies when there was no need. Hurt people do hurt people.
I challenge you to look past your pain, look past your hurt and forgive. Ask God to heal you so you can live free. Ask God to heal you so you can show your parents and grandparents the respect that is due them. Yes, they made mistakes and didn’t always get it right, but you only get one mom and one dad. Yes you get people who step up for you but at the end of the day, you only get one set of parents, good, bad or indifferent.
I know my ask can seem impossible based on what they have put you through, but count it all Joy as you don’t have to do it alone.
“So always tell each other the wrong things you have done. Then pray for each other. Do this so that God can heal you. Anyone who lives the way God wants can pray, and great things will happen.”
James 5:16 ERV
“Be kind and loving to each other. Forgive each other the same as God forgave you through Christ.”
Ephesians 4:32 ERV
“Yes, if you forgive others for the wrongs they do to you, then your Father in heaven will also forgive your wrongs.”
Matthew 6:14 ERV
Never forget; you already survived your past!