Lord I come to you asking for help. Help me Lord with the grief I feel from people who have left me but who are still alive on this earth. Lord I know that you are a father to the fatherless and you take care of your people, I know you give true peace to those who trust in you so I’m asking for your help with my grief. In the name of Jesus, amen.
In 2018 I buried my father and in 2020 I buried my oldest brother due to Covid and the grief seemed endless but with God and the love of Jesus I was able to move forward. Here is where the problem comes in; It’s easy to find scripture support and support from friends and family when a loved one dies but most people don’t recognize that you can grieve people who are still alive.
I have dealt with this kind of grief and I am still dealing with it. How do you go to someone and ask them to pray for your grief , they don’t always understand because most people’s definition of grief ends when someone is dead. I’m talking about a different kind of dead. Dead in the spirit relationships. People who have played dead in your life, you know, they never show up for you physically or emotionally but feel as if you owe them just because they are family. You know the type, the ones who depend on you but you can’t depend on them. One day you have to make a decision, them or you?
Once you decide to chose you over them the grieving starts, you miss them even though they hurt you. You miss them even knowing they could care less about you in the ways that are meaningful to you. They never call you unless they want something. They borrow money and don’t pay you back or feel the need to. They never support you, they assume someone else will. They, they, they.. see the problem? It’s easy to blame them when the truth is you are responsible for the things you allow in your life.
Talk to God, tell him your sorrow and your pain. Trust God with your grief, he can handle it and his knowledge will allow you to put it in perspective. We often attempt to drag people along with us in life long after their purpose in our life has been fulfilled. God truly does have a plan for you to give you a future and a hope so go to him when your heart is overwhelmed, he alone can help. Recognize you are grieving, then allow God to heal that place in you.
We are trying to live free, free from anger, free from pain and frustration so let’s use our helper.
“God is our protection and source of strength. He is always ready to help us in times of trouble.”
Psalms 46:1 ERV
“Two people will not walk together unless they have agreed to do so.”
Amos 3:3 ERV
“The Lord is the source of wisdom; knowledge and understanding come from his mouth. He gives good advice to honest people and shields those who do what is right. He makes sure that people are treated fairly. He watches over his loyal followers.”
Proverbs 2:6-8 ERV