“When you talk, don’t say anything bad. But say the good things that people need—whatever will help them grow stronger. Then what you say will be a blessing to those who hear you.”
Ephesians 4:29 ERV
You call them your friend, sis, Bestie, BFF, homegirl or my man, my homie, my big bruh.. what do they say to say? What kind of words do they use when speaking to you? Do they encourage you to make smart choices and to be responsible or do they sponsor your foolishness? Do these people speak life over your problems or do they co-sign your negativity? Do they offer to pray with you and believe God with you over your situations or are y’all both lost in despair and messiness?
I often wonder what criteria do we as people use to pick friends? In the past I picked people who liked what I liked; when I was roller skating 2-3 times a week I hung with skaters. When I was on the dance team, I hung with dancers. When I started drinking and smoking weed I hung with people who drink and smoke weed. But I was a child, I talked like a child and acted like a child but in the words of Jesus best friend Paul, but now I’m grown and my words and actions should reflect my growth.
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, and I made plans like a child. When I became a man, I stopped those childish ways.”
1 Corinthians 13:11 ERV
We have a responsibility to the people we call friends, we should be encouraging them in life, speaking words that bring life to their situation. We are not like other people, we are Gods children and should be able and willing to share his heart and thoughts toward his people.
“Be friends with those who are wise, and you will become wise. Choose fools to be your friends, and you will have trouble.”
Proverbs 13:20 ERV
Tell them these things when they come to you tired, hurt, beat down, in despair
“The Lord is as kind to his followers as a father is to his children.”
Psalms 103:13 ERV
When they feel weak and afraid, tell them this:
“Be strong and brave, all of you who are waiting for the Lord’s help.”
Psalms 31:24 ERV
When their spirit is low remind them of this:
“God, you give true peace to people who depend on you, to those who trust in you.”
Isaiah 26:3 ERV
When they feel defeated remind them to keep going:
“We must not get tired of doing good. We will receive our harvest of eternal life at the right time. We must not give up.”
Galatians 6:9 ERV
I have learned to trust my friends based on their faith not my foolishness.